I need to be caught up, but I am glad to see you changing some things. I don't know what happened, but the last job did not sound healthy. Additional stress is not what you need right now.
The OM, Tell him to kiss your "umm... kilt covered a$$"! Don't you dare give it the validation of responding in any way. It is not worth YOUR time or energy. It is and has been and will continue to be a firery dart for both your wife and yourself.
Brother, you know I know how much this hurts. If you were to expose it for what it is, you would acknowledge that it has value, as well as meaning. What it is, is what it is. (sorry WII) You have continued to place your hope in "The Lady of the court", and until such time that YOU are prepared to mount your steed and ride on alone, keep your head up and your eye on the prize, albeit with your defensive sword drawn. Protect your kids first, yourself second, and whenever possible, continue to honor your wife. We all know she has not earned it at this point in time, but who amongst us will pick up that first stone?
God, in His wisdom, gave us an out in the case of audultry, but no clear directive that we need to avail ourselves of it.
As an aside, a brave warrior once gave me very solid advice about women in the salsa dancing class, do you recall what that advice might have been?
Salt and Light brother, 8
81388 Me 43, waw 44, 3 kids(D15,D12,S6)Married 19yr, together 27yr. Bomb 11/27/06, Separated 3/1/07 Divorce filed 4/18/07,
"Because it is in giving that we receive; In forgiving that we obtain forgiveness; In dying that we rise to eternal life" St. Francis