Just getting started peicing it back together 2

[cliffy]

Jersting, long time no talk. Just caught your thread again, I hope things are goin' to be great for the date.

[OldFool]

I went over and she really tried to get me to go to bed with her and I wanted to, but all I could think about was what if one of our kids would come in and see me there and a month from now she would change her mind again. I don't want the kids to deal with anymore than they have to. I said as much as I would like to I didn't think it would be a good idea because of the reason I mentioned.

I think that's both legitimate and fair.

Her mood changed to a very somber state and I let her know that I noticed this mood swing and I did not want her to be upset but I thought this was best. She said she knew where she was in all of this but didn't know where I was.

"She [knows] where she [is] in all of this"?? Isn't this the same person (reading back several posts) that was pushing you away just a few days back? Perhaps I'm misunderstanding your comment, but I have difficultly believing she knows what country she's in...let alone what county. That doesn't mean you need to cut her off, just be careful.

Now all I can do is wait and see if she is for real...right? I mean the way I see it if she does feel this strongly about it now she should still feel it even after I left...right?

Yes. I couldn't have said it better myself. I've never known anyone injured by taking more time (but I sure know folks who've been hurt by rushing things).

With regard to my comments and soxfan's response, I am only pointing out that one may not know if there is an OP/PA in play or the significance (or lack thereof) in ML from the other person's perspective. I've known folks here who were devastated after ML with the idea that it was "meaningful", only to find out later that it ended up being more "meaningful" to them than it did to the WAS. If you can handle it, go for it by all means (I've gone cold turkey for over a year now and I don't recommend it). However, if doing it and then finding out later there is someone else would just about put you down for the count, give it some thought before you jump into the sack.

Good luck and do what's best for you.

[Soxfan2008]

OK J, we're waiting for you to dish.............

[jersting]

The date got cancelled because son ended up staying home instead of going to his friends house. We got together that night after he went to bed and just talked most of the night.
We were able to spend alot of time together over the weekend and she went to church with the kids and I monday night. She called today and told me she did not want the D. I had another call come in so I told her we would talk tonight.

[OldFool]

All good. Remember, slow and steady wins the race. Sending good thoughts your way.

[Soxfan2008]

"""She called today and told me she did not want the D."""


I'm all tingly!

[Soxfan2008]

just checking up on you.

What's goin on???

[sofaraway]

Hey Jersting, it is certainly a long and winding road isn't it?

You sound like you have come to peace with allowing time to tell, that is fantastic my friend.

Give me a call sometime and lets catch up, its been to long....

Ian

[jersting]

Sox, nothing much going on. We have been able to get together a few times and talk or have a little fun but no dates yet because the kid sitter sitch has not worked out. We are supposed to get together tonight but I won't know about that for sure until I leave work.
Ian, I'll give you a call soon. Keep your head up and know you are a great father for keeping yourself together for your kids through all of this.

[OldFool]

So....what's up, doc?