I think in general the courts are trying to be more balanced and fair in divorce. Most judges (according to one I know personally) are aware and sensitive to the fact that not providing kids with a good amount of access to their fathers is detrimental to the children. Of course, having a good attorney who has a good relationship with the judges in your local court does help....

If you do happen to speak with an attorney don't tell anyone about it. Also, if she does file or go in that direction do NOT let her know you would fight her for custody... or give her any information about your legal position. It's better to have her completely unaware. That way, if she's expecting a pistol you can come back with a nuclear bomb. Make sense?

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.