Dear Sue:
if you know my story, you also know i passed many many months in limboland, not knowing whats is on my h mind... and you know... we postpone the talk bc we arent prepare for the answers... So, sometimes we need to get out of limboland, just to put on the wheels of our own life... but prepare for the worst... think in many scenaries or possible answers or talks... and think how will you feel with each one... thats works for me... good luck... and stay in touch...
andrea