A quick note: historically I had been bad with acknowledging anniversaries/bdays/valentine's day/etc., so, in my mind, the card was a 180 to see what kind of response I would get. If I had it to do over, I'd lean to not sending one, but, and I generally don't disagree with you OT, in my sitch, at the time, I don't think it was the wrong thing to do.
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
