H and I are almost at 9 years. We have 3 boys.

I know sometimes I didn't really "like" him either, but D was never an option for me.

Are you honestly "checking out" or do you think you are just saying those things to somehow protect yourself & your feelings. So that maybe if she does choose OM and/or choose to leave, you can say "well, I didn't want her anyway"?

Just some thoughts.


Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10