I know who you are speaking of when you say BB. I'm pretty good with most of them, but what the hell does BB mean???? BB is my wife in general terms. Because she has an independent minded set at times, I use her pre marriage initials.
I have a hang-up including the term "MY" in most of the conversations I have with people unless it pertains mostly to something I individually own or do. The dogs that live in our house I rarely refer to as "MY" dog/s. I am their guardian/caretaker, but they are not mine to do as I decide willy-nilly.
BB is an individual that isn't owned by anyone but herself. We have a contractual obligation and commitment obligation to each other but neither one owns the other.
Another reason for not referring to BB as "MY WIFE" she does some things I feel less connection to her because of it, and her attitude frequently goes along the lines, “men are pigs/controlling and many women would be better off single. That is her talk but her actions say otherwise..
Before she was the med nurse at a facility that had a 28 day Codependency treatment program, I felt we were "MY" to each other. After she worked at that facility for several years, I gradually saw two independent people who share a history, better than room mates but not like we were married before she started working for the Codependency program at the mental health facility.
I don't like some generic terms and I don't like saying MY WIFE" because I wouldn’t introduce her to another person that way in real life. I would use her name. Example: Imconfused0807, this is BB. We have been M for 39 years and live at 123 Easy Street since 1974. We have 2 kids, 2 grand kids, and yada yada.
BB this is Imconfused0807. I met him online when we were discussing XYZ relationship book topic.
