Hold tight. Be strong. Visit one of those adult shops if you know what i mean, wink wink.
Shut off that SOB. I know you have needs, trust me. But you will respect yourself more if you make that move. He is a big fat cake eater. Take the cake away he will have to see what he is missing out on. He may never make the decision if he is getting the best of both worlds.
Sounds tempting to confront the OW, but from we all know that does almost nothing except piss off the WAS.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.