Had way too much fun this past weekend. Dancing, flirting...I know probably a little over the top.
Saturday was the MC session. H has pretty much decided that he is done with me. He is moving on with his life. Blah blah blah. More of the same. The MC suggested at this point that we probably are headed for a D unless something changes. MC doesn't see the point of us coming anymore if H doesn't want to work on things. H admits that he did do all of those things to me over the years but doesn't really want to do anything about it. Just easier for him to cut and run. Mc asked that we think about this for a few more weeksna and come back again and hope to have a plan in place for what each of us wants. If I still want to work on things but H doesn't I am pretty sure the MC is going to suggest moving forward with a D.
Oh and H told his parents that he was divorcing me. My MIL called me crying wanting me to BEG him to take me back. I knew the dreaded call was coming but I almost wanted to tell her if he could remove himself from your a$$ long enough then maybe he would want me back...but I didn't I just kindly told her that it was really out of my hands. If this is what he wants then its his decision ultimately.
I tried to discuss finances with him. He makes way more money than I do since he got a huge raise and I am still supporting our household at 50% and paying for utilites & groceries at the house I am living in. I mentioned that with all the work bonuses he gets it would be nice if he could split those, and the answer was no way. His money. He is also taking D on a couple of fancy vacations that we had planned. Of course his parents are now inteneding instead of me.
I am feeling really low, probably as some of you do from time to time. If we do end up with the D I will just enough $$$ to support myself & D, but none for fancy vacations etc. With the real estate market in the slumps we cannnot even sell our house and pay it off. Its mortgaged to hilt as we did many renovations to it when we bought it 3 years ago. Even if we could sell it for what we owe we are both walking away with huge amounts of debt.
So there is my depressing financial rant. I did threaten him with going to good ole' Providence RI and getting a job at the Foxy Lady to compensate for my lack of funds. Needless to say this did not get any laughs from him.
Anyway my IC has been trying to help me let go of this M as its been mentally unhealthy for me anyway. She made a good point that I am too wrapped up in the social stigma attached to divorce and the material loss that it will cause.
Not sure what to make of that. I did meet some nice fellows out this weekend so I guess when the time comes I will have no problems finding someone else.
So thats my weekend. Again, moving on from the who did what to who and focusing on the present. Sadly enough for me the present is trying to focus on my life and hoping that my H realizes that divorce is not always the best solution. For him its the easiest. I can understand after 2 years of IC I have learned about myself and how to deal with things better but he can't or doesn't want to address his issues. I know some of the LBS on here actually filed and then recanted. I hope he has this epiphany some day. Before its too late.
Those cuties at the bar looked awfully tempting after this drought I have been going through:)
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
Hey WAW Just a quick PMA boost for ya since I have some serious work to do before going out of town....AGAIN!
You sound super hot! OK! You are going to be fine. If you were not tied to Boston, I would say move to Texas, a lot of nice nice guys here if ya know what I mean!!! Seriously, everything will be OK, you are still very young, vs. me who is almost outta time! Crap, I hate admitting I am middle aged and shouldnt even talk to girls your age but, oh well, you sound like you have your sh*t together so focus on yourself and your daughter, OK? Again, you will be better than OK, just realize that.
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Got to love it CVA! Girls your age! You won't be on Dateline for talking to me or anything
Thanks for the cheering up. I am def looking at my future. Trying to scrape together some plans for my 30th B-day and maybe make it to GD's ski trip if I can afford by then.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
