d, well, I didn't have a good experiment in mind. I was hoping you would.
Ah. I totally understand this. But here's the thing...you did tell him to go...so wouldn't it seem selfish to backtrack now?
I'd say wait until he actually tells you he has plans. Then, at that point, be as supportive as possible. Once you've done the cheerleader routine: "Good for you! I know how badly you've wanted to do this, and thank you for waiting until the timing was better, it means a lot!" Then maybe you could say, "I'm concerned because of xyz."
