He told me if I wouldn't have filed then, we wouldn't be where we are. And then reminded me that I was the one throwing this temper tantrum, that he wasn't that bad of guy, that he put a roof over my head for four years and that I walked away. I just listened and cried. Seems to be all I can do right now. Then he ended the conversation with he will call me at the end of the weekend so we can discuss our wants...I think I'm done talking with him. He was just so cocky and arrogant. I know the way I left, and how I left was wrong, but man, he is just not the same person I married...I just feel this has all gotten so out of hand.
Hi Christa, I have a couple of thoughts that crossed my mind when I was reading your post so here goes.
You're right it has gotten out of hand, all of our sitch's seem to be that way. But we have to play with the hand we're dealt.
It sounds to me that your H has entered a defensive attack mode. What I mean by that is the old mentality of "the best defense is a good offense".
Could it be that the cockiness and arrogance on his part are a bit of false bravado to maintain his composure right now? The reason I ask is that I know that for a while I did some of this, I tried not to be arrogant but I decided that I was going to do what I wanted and if that conflicted with her interests or her plans then so what. My thought was that she chose this new life, not me, so if it inconvienenced her well she had better get used to it. It probably came across as arrogant to her.
I think that if you stand your ground and don't let him drag you into a fight you can wait him out. Keep DB'ng and see if the attitude diminishes.
Stay strong Steel
M 39, W 35 D7, S5 Friends 18+ Together 11+ Married 8 ILYBINILWY 4/7/07 - A BOMB 4/29/07 Seperated 5/16/07 - D Filed She Moved out 7/1 D Busted 6/15/08
