Yeah, that's kind of what I was thinking too -- about H's reaction. Also wondering if he's wondering if the surgery may affect our SL.
S3 doesn't know anything about my surgery. I honestly think it's attention getting behavior, which doesn't REALLY make sense, b/c I don't think he's lacking, but . . . I also know for sure that it has A LOT to do w/ H being gone. They were very, very close!!!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I hope so. I asked another woman here @ work who's had a hysterectomy and she said it's better too so that's obviously another plus. I'm just not going to bring it up to H again until I find out when it will be for sure.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Feeling pretty good today. I'm actually coloring, yes coloring in a Mickey Mouse coloring book. When you have kids, you have an excuse, but I actually bought myself my OWN 96 count box of crayons yesterday LOL. It's very relaxing and requires absolutely NO thought process.
H still hasn't mentioned surgery, so like I said, I'm just going to wait until I know when it's scheduled for sure.
I get up so darn early every day b/c it's really the only time I have BY MYSELF. S3 never wants to go to bed and messes around after I put him to bed. Last night, he even got up in S7's top bunk w/ him and I think he got smacked around a bit b/c he woke S7 up. Poor little guy
Going to get the boys and I to church this a.m. NO MATTER WHAT. I can't remember the last time we got there. I had been going consistently and my parents go to the same church, but it seems like every Sunday a.m. I say I'm going to get us there and something happens and we're never ready on time. Today, we will go!!
Not much else to report. H says he's going to quit drinking, yeah right That's pretty much all they have to do over there to relieve any sort of stress -- go out & party a bit on the weekends. He was supposed to do a video call w/ the boys & I yesterday a.m., but ended up going out and he won't do a video call w/ the boys if he's been drinking -- he doesn't want them to see him like that. We had quit drinking a long time ago when S7 was born, so they've never experienced that side of mom & dad much. However, after the D sitch began, I did tie one on a few times.
Working on just staying positive. H should be actually buying his tickets to come home in December soon. I know it will be here before we know it. Especially if I get this surgery, then we'll have Halloween, Thanksgiving, etc. Time always goes by so fast and you don't know where it went!!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
NOt sure how much I will be on today. I have come down with a stinking cold and H has taken over the kids for the day. At the moment all are out of the house - BLISS.
I know what you mean about colouring - I love it - big baby that I am; and at least I can mostly stay between the lines these days which impresses the kids.LOL I am also very good at drawing horses as I never drew anything else as a child - it really impresses D9.
I know what you mean about the drinking. We stopped in front of the kids when they were young. Now they are older thay do see us drink but I have never been that much of a drinker, apart from in my university days.(My dad was an alcoholic which kinda put me off it a bit). Now if I do get tipsy they just take the mickey out of me
Have a good time at church. I am heading back up to bed!!!!! Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Hope you start feeling better and it's not too bad. Oh, a day in bed, that is BLISS!!!
H is the artist between the 2 of us. Honestly, VERY, VERY good and S7 seems to have inherited the desire and the ability
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Well, found out yesterday through a guy that H worked w/ here and will be going back to work w/ when he gets back that OW got married!
She started dating this guy shortly after h deployed. I guess now whether he goes back to the same department and is working directly w/ her or moves to a different department, it won't matter.
Honestly, though, I don't think I worry about it too much anyway. I think that's all in the past as long as we can keep our M on track.
Been thinking a lot about what a M is truly all about. I get Gary Chapman's emails each day and each week it's about a different topic.
What I keep seeing over & over again is that if we make sure we are taking care of our spouse, it should come back to us. It's kind of our "responsibility" to make sure our spouse is taken care of and happy and it should all come full circle. That's the attitude I'm going to try to keep.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Glad to hear OW got married! That's good news..... Is there still a chance you rhusband may have to work with her? Any way he can be transfered or she might be???
I think that's a good point about taking care of your spouse. I think that's important regardless of where a marriage is. If you think about it logically being generous and giving love has the best chance of keeping a marriage together. Also, do you ever actually lose anything by being generous and giving love? Even if a marriage fails, at least you know you've done your best, and the chance of a spouse finding anyone who can provide what you've given (along with a rich history together, and kids!!!) is extremely remote.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
