Most people do this as adolocents. funny you should say this, because this is what the T said the first time he went to see her, that all this going out w/friends/op to make himself feel better was teenage behaviour, stuff he didnt' get to do when he was a teen. His mom was very conservative to the point of smothering, so, now all is coming out like hot lava.
Yes, it is a new skill to communicate and voice his opinions, guess i'm not used to that and have to learn to accept his dissaproval, in the past, I pretty much made all the desicions and he just went along with it. I forget that all he has to go by is the years of marriage in which I was the nagging bossy ball and chain, it's been barely one year of piecing and my 180's. The C told me in the past I would come off as abrasive sometimes in my efford to defend myself, I've been trying to work on that, guess I need lots more work iin the patience department
We have come a long way, yes, we can make it
Dont' let my sitch make you doubt yours, I don't know what your W's personal conflicts are, but my H is battling untreated ADHD, really messed up childhood issues surfacing now, prob some MLC remnant, depression on an off, lost of self streem and direction.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
