Thank you Sara and Saffie. You are both very wise.
Sara I feel the same way you said about me being there when the OM is not. Saffie you always make great points too always.
My wife just emailed me the following after talking to me about her feeling down.

WIFE'S EMAIL: Thanks for talking with me, I feel better. I know that it is hard for you to listen to me go on about him. Thanks for being my friend.

I KNOW I'M PARONOID BUT DOES IT SOUND LIKE SHE ONLY SEES ME AS A FRIEND NOW INSTEAD OF LOVER OR HUSBAND BASED ON EMAIL????