chicki's drama 4 h moved back, but for THIS?

[Just_Me]

ANYHOO, NOTE TO SELF...why? why? why cant I jsut keep it constant in turning him down? UGH!!

I'm not sure. If it were me, I wouldn't be able to get the vision of where else his **** has been or will be after he leaves. That would give me sufficient strength to say no. I couldn't imagine having sex with my wife and then she leaves to be with someone else.

NO ofensive to the men here, but why do some men do this??

Is it the dog in them? I read somewhere that us women have to feel loved and respected BEFORE we have sex & you men need to have sex , in order to feel loved???

I personally couldn't imagine doing what your husband is doing. I wonder if turning him down a time or two makes you more desirable. It would for me. It would be a challenge. Does he withdraw for awhile after sex?

I do think that men in a relationship do want sex to feel loved. But is that what your H is doing? If so, then he's very indiscriminate because he's looking to feel loved by other people besides you. I'm sure he's attracted to you, but I don't know if he wants it to feel loved. He's especially sweet to you on these dinners because he wants sex rather than wanting sex because things are going so well with you....know what I mean? He knows he has to work it a bit or you won't give it up.

Continuing to have sex is up to you. Ask Lisalost if it worked out for her and what did work. She got back together, but from reading her story, he continues to lie and still talks to OW. Is that what you want? Get back together but once the sex gets boring he's off wooing the OW again for a quickie in the kitchen? I would want him back on your terms, not on his. If you are willing to accept this piece of tail on the side role now, if you're ever back together, don't get all up in arms if he cheats on you. You make him feel like God's gift to women.