lost in the land of confusion 8 and holding

[LuvMyHusband]

[quote=ninajane]My husband did exactly the same. In the heat of an arguement i said if that's how you feel then i'll pack your bags. Ten minutes later i said i didn't mean it, but he took it as his Q to leave. He also insisted that i made him go even though i said i didn't really think it was a good idea. He's back again now, we're still wading through mud, but at least he's here. I must say they can be very clever, putting the blame on you, because they feel guilty. Let it go over you head. sounds like you're keeping your cool.

Nina, lol. the same thing happened with me. I could tell he wanted to go, so I told him to just go then. (this was before I read the DR). Then when I thought he was having a PA with the OW he has been talking too I lost it and told him to not come back. Since then I have repeatedly told him that I wanted him home but he determinedly hangs on to words said in anger.