Still Tryin's new thread 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

okay, just letting out some frustration. I still need to learn what to do...finding what works with my H.

Okay guys. My H joined a gym membership to another club because it was closer & smaller(less people). We already have a membership that's $10 bucks a month. He hasn't used it in 3 years. He was the one to talk me into it in the first place. He doesn't use it because they are too crowded and he can't have a "real" routine. So I reluctantly was okay....after the sitch problem... and he's been 2-3 times. He bought it end of last year, possibly in the fall. It's 38 bucks every other month he says he's going to cancel it. The first few months he wanted to make sure he wouldn't start going, then he never did, so he decided like 6 months ago that he would cancel it, plus some other things. He did one of them. I think I've asked 3 times now if he had cancelled it. Not nagging or anything. He even wrote a list of things to do for himself a month ago and I wrote on there that he'd get a free back rub after he did it all.

Obviously none of this is working, and I just knew he hadn't done it and I mentioned it yesterday and he almost avoided the question, and then made excuses that he'd have to go in to cancel, and it's just a 24hr club so there's no one there on the weekends. Well, in the past I would always do things myself because he would never get them done. So finally I give up, I call the place because we don't have 40 bucks to hand out free every month. The kids could have gone somewhere or we could have used that money to pay for the fence we are finishing. or go to the steeler game he is wanting to go to in St. Louis this year.

Well, I call them and another company handles that and told me I have to send a 30 day notice! ug. this is why I would do it myself, because if I had, I would have found this out months ago and we would have saved probably 200 bucks. I just started crying after because that means we have to pay them another month payment and they would refund me any of the months.

What should I have done differently? I was trying not to be the nagging wife, and I gave him probably 4 months of not saying anything, but where do I draw the line for heavens sakes?

okay, it's really not as big of a deal as I'm letting it be. After our sitch, I realized that I needed to let him be in charge more over our finances, or basically stop getting angry about the money he spends to keep him happy. If we HAD the money, I would love for him to do the things he does, but it's really hard when we DONT have it. especially when he's just throwing it away like that.

okay, now I'll be writing out the dumb notice and leaving it for H to sign.

sorry for the anger.