Please any advice on A MAJOR CRISIS LAST NIGHT. My wife called me at work last night. I cold barely understand her because she was crying hysterically. She said she was at our house with our son cleaning, and it just hit her how miserable she was by herself. She said she hated living by herself at her apartment and missed living in our home. She said she is so confused and doesn't know what to do but she just can't take it anymore. She said she feels so foolish and she can't believe how depressed and sad she is after only being out for 2 weeks. She said she doesn't know what to do because she has a lease and wouldn't probably be able to get out of it. She said maybe she isn't giving the move long enough but knew she hated it at this moment. I was very sympathetic and told her it was alright and I told her that she does NOT have to feel foolish. I said being on your own was something you wanted to try. I said you are NOT a fool, you don't know how you would feel until you tried it. I said if you are that miserable, sad, and depressed about moving out, then it would be ok to move back home. I said it doesn't matter if it's two weeks or two years, if you are upset about being away, then it's ok to move back. It doesn't make you weak or a failure just because you didnt like it. I said you shouldn't put yourself through all the hurt, just to wait 2 month, 3 months to see if you like it better. If you are unhappy by yourself then it's ok to come back. We all miss you. She said she wanted to spend the night back home because she was so upset.
We went to bed and she told me the same things on the phone and just kept saying she didn't know what to do. I never mentioned the OM or begged her to come, I just made sure she knew she could come back and we would work on building a new relationship going forward. She confided in me that the OM said he loves her but she says he just has so much stuff in his own life and she is feeling rejected by him and she said he is blaming her for wanting more right now. She said he thinks she blames him for moving out and she said he gets defensive when she says she hates being alone because he thinks she wants him to move in and he can't. I cried very slightly and as soon as I did, she hugged me and hugged me for the first time in a few months. She said we both need hugs right now. We hugged and squeezed for about 5 minutes and then did some more small talk and then she went to sleep. I did hug her the whole night even though I couldn't sleep the entire night. SHe got up this morning and then left for work. She said goodbye and said thanks for letting me stay but no hug or kiss. WHAT DOES ANYTHING THINK ABOUT THIS AND HOW MUCH DID I GO AGAINST DBUST PRINCIPLES. DID I MAKE THINGS WORSE.
PLEASE HELP \:\(