The Good, the Bad, and the Funny 4

[mkultra]

No one is going to love my kids like their father. Unfortunately, these same people will condone the A and accept that if H was no longer in love then it is understandable to want to be with this new person and be happy. I can hear H's brother and sister saying that they support his decision. It's not good for the kids to be in a home where the parents are unhappy. H has to take care of himself and make himself happy.

There was a divorced Dad who has been a real source of transitional information for my H. He has been divorced for three years and is involved with a married woman with children. He has been supplying my H with a lot of advice on child support and his rights and how to coparent through divorce. He seems like a total divorce advocate, like free legal advice. It is so annoying to me that this man exists. I called his ex-wife and she told me that the truth is that her ex has not been with his kids in over three months. The ex wife took full physical custody because of his drunk and lascivious lifestyle. She was also aware that the married woman's husband was physically threatening this cheating man!! She feared for her children's welfare. Her ex went all Britney. I told my H this, and he was stunned! He had no idea that the man in his corner telling him how his kids were fine with the divorce were actually taken away from him!!!

Can you believe that blended families are now the norm? I hate that I am being pushed toward this against my will. If H and I D, I am not planning on looking for someone else. I will raise my kids and look for companionship when they are grown. I'm not complicating things any more. BTDT.

Sorry for the high jack, MK.

I feel so hypocritical here. Many of my students come from poverty. Many are dazed because their parents are in jail, in gangs, in another country, divorced. I used to weep for them, but secretly I felt smug, as though I had it so much better. I guess I still do because I have a home and support, but I never thought my kids would be the lost little dazed ones at school.

I am also fearful of being a single mom, but I feel like it may not be better to find a step parent or blend my family either. No matter how ideal it is. The truth is I actually wanted to have another baby that has the same blood as my two kids. That seems like a pipe dream now! Crazy.