Laughing - I'm so very sorry to hear this. But please remember one thing - if your S wanted to go with his dad, most judges would let him go, regardless of any of this other stuff. And it is NORMAL for a teenage boy to want to go live with his dad, very very common.
My guess is a few months of living with dad and missing his friends (and your cooking!) will be all it takes for S to have a change of heart - but maybe not. He may be figuring there will be less supervision with dad; who knows?
What I DO know is that you raised a good boy, and you are a good mom. Just because S feels the need to go live with the father who has been absent from his life for so long does NOT mean it is a reflection on you or your parenting.
Don't get sucked in to the fight. The judge likely doesn't care who pays the cell phone bill. He just sees a boy over 13 years of age who chooses to live with his dad. Let it go.
Focus on your daughter and your home and don't punish S for his choice. He KNOWS he has YOUR love, he's trying to get it from his dad too.
Your D will need your love and attention; don't get sucked into focusing so much on the ex that she misses out. Have fun "girl time" with her. Show her how to survive and thrive.
