There and Back, #8

[nephartiti]

Hi Morgan. Personally, I do not think you should offer your H help. However, I don't think you should avoid him either. If you can, you should remain open so that you are approachable so that he can come to you if he chooses to. Detavh so that his actions, comments,, moods do not create such a response from you. However, ideally, you do not want to withdraw so that there is no chance for connection. However, again, you must take care of you first. So, if you are burned out and can not be there for him without compromising your well being, then creating a boundary is healthy and appropriate. Hope this makes sense.

Take care. I think a call or e-mail at this point would be pursuing, btw. A non-expecting comment in the moment might have been courteous, but by know means required. The way I see it, your H is in an R with someone else at the moment, even if it is temporary like I believe it is, it is not your place at this time unless he asks you for it. Even then you are not obligated. Remember, when the ow is responsible to fulfill all his needs, it puts strain on the A. You want to give a taste of what you have to offer, but leave him wanting more, still hungry. I bet OW isn't baking those apple pies...