He then said that I could bring clothes tomorrow and then leave from him house Sunday morning for my private. I didn't reply.
Not gonna go. It's starting the same thing again. I ask him over, he says no but then wants me to go to his house.
Cheeseless tunnel. I want to be with him, but not when it's aways at his place and on his terms. Everytime I say ok and go over there after he turned me down I feel like I'm "rolling over" or how do I put this.... like I'm not being true to me- Im doing only what he wants- like being controlled or manipulated-- submissive... weak...
does that make sense or am I just being crazy?
Just my take on this Sox, my w asks me to come over and I do but I won't spend the night there. The reason I won't is because I think about what she may have done there on a weekend when the kids were with me and it drives me nuts even if nothing had happend. I always try to have her come to my house because I know what has happend there. I would rather have her come to my house because the chance of us spending the night together is much beter than if I go to her house. Maybe your h looks at this the same way as me. I realize you are the one trying to fix your marriage, but in your h's eyes, you are the one that initiated the D.
The ride is over. M 38 WAW 39 08/06 out to give WAW space Bomb 10/06 Back Home 2/07 New Bomb 4/17/07 WAW out 06/07 Trying again 09/07 Another Bomb 11/23/07 WAW moved back home 12/14/07 WAW moved back out 2/2/08 D 12 S 9
Good point. But he initiated the D the first time. I did the second time- after being so frustrated after 18 months of nothing that I was giving up.
H sctually doesn't like to come to my house since this is the house he walked out of.
This weekend I'm not caving in. D has a competition on Sat and it's my weekend with the kids. H can either come here Sat night, or not spend the night with me.
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HS- glad it comes off that way. Sure as hell doesn't feel like I let things slide off my back. I stress way too much. But then I vent and I feel better. So I guess that's why it sounds like that.
Well now that I know that, I agree with you. Stand your ground. I can understand him not wanting to go to the house he walked out of, but that would be a good step for him to get past that feeling. Stand your ground. Eventually he should feel comfortable at the family house.
The ride is over. M 38 WAW 39 08/06 out to give WAW space Bomb 10/06 Back Home 2/07 New Bomb 4/17/07 WAW out 06/07 Trying again 09/07 Another Bomb 11/23/07 WAW moved back home 12/14/07 WAW moved back out 2/2/08 D 12 S 9
like I posted in Piecing, I caved. I'm such a wimp. but the Sox game was on and driving home just wasn't an option without missing. Then it went to the 11th inning and I was exhausted.
H was great though when I went into an allergy attack at about 1 am. Going to the store to get me meds and kleenex.
right now I'm debating dipping into savings to buy World series tickets if the Sox win since arizona is so close and my parents are in Denver. Either is doable.
