I appreciate the need to rant from time to time--- so have at it with no apology necessary.
But the main reason why people are telling you that YOU need to do something is because you are HERE on this BB.
If your H were here on the BB he'd be getting the "this is what you need to do message."
That's the answer, plain and simple.
If cemar's W was here, hairdog's W, karen's H, GGB's W-- anyone's partner. If the other person were here S/HE would be getting a sh!tload of advice.
We don't usually say, "What your partner needs to do is--" because we mostly recognize that you can't make other people do things.
We pick on the poster because they're here to be picked on. Believe me, I'd love it if mrs hairdog would post! Have I ever got some advice for her (and karen's H and GGB's W)!
