If you recall, we were just talking about this the other night. It's just that OT has a way of presenting it that is perhaps more laser sharp & direct.
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Perhaps now you'll start to get an inkling of the WAS mindframe
That thought came to me the other day, as I too am wanting to "expand my social life" by doing things differently, much the same as our WAS's. Personally, from knowing you, I don't think your life is as wild as it may sound on your thread & I know that you have an enormous amount of respect & compassion for others. You have expressed concern about the possibility that someone may get hurt if you R with your W. If I remember correctly, we both thought that if we were honest about our sitch from the start, that potential hurt would be minimized &, rightly or wrongly, it would be a smaller ouch than the ending of a M or long term R.
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But you are at a place where no matter what happens with your current love interest long term, at some point you will both recognize that you are using her right now, using her as a drug
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I think we decided it was definitely a drug & like "crack" to us LBS's, so this is true enough, in fact, the bulk of OT's post has been discussed at one time or another during one of our conversations. I think you've had similiar talks with your current love interest who is D'd herself & prolly aware of the dangers in starting a R with someone in your sitch. Course, as I said, that usually doesn't mean she'll remember or believe that it won't work out differently for her.
You've said yourself, that you've slowed down on making changes and charging ahead in the last few days, and that's always a good thing to do, yes?
I have no doubt that you'll come to a nice balance in whatever path you choose next.
