His happiness or his depression is not your responsibility. You are not his mother. If he is acting like a child, he does not need any further enabling. You can show him unconditional love. But do not pursue any further contact. Let him initiate positive interaction. Of course he will realize how he threw away a lot. It is very sad. But it is his issue and he needs to take accountability for his own mental health. Your positive loving nature can be a model but don't get sucked into his issues. Ugh. I hate to see any mother of twins go through this. I have already witnessed this twice, once across the street and once in my own extended family. It was never written in the Twin Handbook that the Dads would bail like this!!!
mk, that is what I am thinking, that i am enabling him to a huge degree. everything you wrote here is what I think is dead on.
its sad when any mother (or father) goes thru this, not just parents of multiples. hell, I figured if we survived the first year of their life, everything else would be cake. guess I was wrong.
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