(if he's done this multiple times POST separation, however... now would seem like the time to let him clean up his own mess)
only once or twice pre-separation, many years ago. most of what I am refering to is that he has done it several times post separation, the last time being 2 weeks ago (if I remember correctly) and it was particularly bad. I talked to my therapist and to my best friend that night (a therapist, not my therapist) about what I should do. at this point, the both told me he needs to do this on his own. I can be there to listen, but really, he needs someone else to do this with. I can't be this person for him right now. not meaning wife, meaning person who can help him deal with his issues. I can help him find someone to talk to if he wants me to, but as my friend put it, I need to hand him back his pain and let him deal with it.
I am going to talk to my friend about this tomorrow. she had a late client and I didn't want to call her tonight, figuring she was probably already fried after a long day.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
