There and Back, #8

[Dom R]

when I got home, I pretty much avoided looking at him. I know that isn't very kind, but I can't handle an emotional breakdown from him right now. maybe that's wrong, I don't know. maybe I should be there to just listen and such. but I honestly think he needs more than me for this.

I just don't know what to do. I suppose because the reality is there is nothing for me to do here. any thoughts?

My thoughts are: he does need you.
except if you "cant handle an emotional breakdown from him".

Advance warning: I'm going to be pushy with you.



What's the deal here?
Do you want to be his wife, or not?
Are you willing to live up to the job description?

What if there was no bomb, no separation...and he was "going to have an emotional breakdown" ? Could you handle him then?

If you want to be a true wife, then you need to pull yourself together, and be there for your husband, when he needs you. Is that not true?


thats the most important part of marriage: sticking together, supporting each other, when things are rough! emotionally rough most of all.

here's the thing: you actually have it easy. because odds are, he wont want to talk to you.
All you have to say, is something like, "you look really sad. if you want someone to talk to, i'll listen to you".

and then, just listen, if he choses to.

The toughest part, will probably be to just keep your mouth closed, and keep listening

Seems to me, like you are avoiding some major potential positives in your marital relationship, just because of fear.
First, the potential anniversary date. and now, the possibility of him opening up to you.

Maybe it's a good time for you to change that about yourself.
To stop hiding out of fear.