I KNOW you are a good person trying to treat yourself and others well. Your perception is just off-kilter right now... Really.
But if you ignore me, everything will eventually be OK anyway, there will just be more healing to do for more people. And, your R will be whatever it will become, amicably ended, a pit of despair, a partnership of growth, a new M, enemies, friends. It will play out one way or another. But, if you give yourself a bit more time now, however it plays out in future, it will play out better.