Hey, Jak, and 25yrs. Things here are pretty much the same. H has been coming home each evening on time, and seeming to take more pleasure in home life, and being with son and me. He does act happier, most of the time, but still has these weird outbursts that seem totally out of proportion to the situation, like last Sunday, after church, I wanted to pick up one item from the store that was on the way home from church. It was something that our S wanted to go with lunch. My H went nuts about my not making a list and forgetting to put everything on the list and how when HE did the grocery shopping after our S was born, HE never forgot anything. And when we were out of something, I should put it on a list, and THAT'S the way it should be done!!! Then at home later when he told me to get all the clothes off the bed so he could take a nap, and I did, he said maybe he would take a nap later, and I said I thought he wanted me to clean off the bed so he could he got mad and said OKAY, I will take a nap, so I said never mind, I was just saying, and he came in and started in again about the freakin' grocery list, and how he did it so perfectly when he did it. I got upset, and told him there was no call for all that, and he said what? I said for the way he was acting, and it hurt my feelings, and he said maybe when he gave me 23 yrs of it like I did him, he would stop it. After his nap, he was in a better mood, and went out to check his BP. When he came back, I asked where he went, and he told me, and I said well why didn't he do it when we were on the way home from church, and he said I was being a smart a**. Well, he deserved it, in my opinion. I try to keep my sense of humor in spite of his being a butthead, but it's sometimes hard. So far, he has been decent since then. I do try to show him that I can be nice even if he's not.
He hasn't said anything to me about helping out his parents, but I know they mention it to him all the time.
He says he loves me, and will say ILY when I do, and occasionally will say it first. But, he won't say it after we ML. I don't know why.
So, jak, I read your thread, and I am sorry to see your H doesn't feel connected to you. I am reading a book called "When Love Dies, How to Save a Hopeless Marriage" by Judy Bodmer. It makes me think of how some of us seem to be feeling, since our H's have started acting this way. I think I emailed you a couple of days ago. I will hope to hear from you soon.
Hey 25yrs, I sure hope Alaska is being good to you and your family. I hope your BIL really enjoys seeing it up there. How is your D liking her new school? What about your D in college? How is she? Is she going to be able to come home for most of the holidays? How do the kids trick or treat up there? I guess it's tough, with critters wandering around. It's been a while since I emailed you, but now that your email is up and running again, I will email you again.
