Yup. reallly really difficult.. unless one is sure to "take care of things" themselves before the event.

as far as sandi's marriage goes goes:

#1. they are old enough that neither party believes in divorce. So, the question of "when are they getting divorced?" isnt applicable.

#2. they are both "LD". whereas karen, seems to be HD to me.
And even if karen is 100% committed to not getting a divorce.. she's going to be horribly unhappy for the rest of her life with her husband, if she decides to go the "no sex from husband" route.
That kind of resentment does NOT go away. It gets worse over time.

You wanna use sandi as an example?
Ok... she didnt get a divorce... .but she almost had a physical affair. She DID have an emotional "affair".
Is that any better?

no sex = problems, either sooner or later. unless one of them just happens to die first. ugh.

Last edited by Dom R; 10/04/07 10:26 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle