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...the assumption being that if she does more harder longer louder, he H will want to have sex.

I'm trying to get you to admit that that is your premise. Is it?


Nope. I make no claims, that if karen "does the right things", that her husband will suddenly want to have sex.

Right now, my focus is on suggestions for karen to try, so that her husband might at least enjoy it more when they do have sex.

after all.. in some respects.. frequency "isnt a problem".
To some degree, i think that when karen says she wants it... she gets it. The biggest problem is his miserly martyrdom attitude when he gives it to her.
Which makes her not ask him so much.
(which is actually his goal in his behaviour, it would seem like)

So, it would be good to figure out if it is a problem, or laziness/selfishness.

In some respects.. if karen is really really lucky.... even if there is an actual problem ... I think that there's a small chance that the plan outline I suggested, could help him overcome it.

(it's semi-similar to a sexual-aversion treatment therapy approach that I once read)


Last edited by Dom R; 10/04/07 09:47 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle