I found the thread that I was referring to earlier. Not sure if I know how to copy the link, but the title is:

mypenance 2 by prodigalwife

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1185810&page=4#Post1185810

Me: 48
Ex-W: 45
M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93
Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06
OM
Separated: mid-Feb '07
Divorced mid-July '08
One daughter - 28
XW living w/OM