Remembering myself, Part II

[Dom R]

I give him oral 9 of 10 times regardless of what I get or don't. I just don't complete the act if we have IC.
It has had no effect on his willingness to provide direct stimulation of almost ANY sort to me.

hmph. sorry to hear that. i guess he's just sexually selfish then.

I have "let go" of my ideas of perfection to the extent that I would consider "accepting" a virtually sexless marriage if we reached certain agreements - above board not below as it is now. Right now we have tacit/wordless agreements to not poke at each other's insecurities and it isn't working. I would rather have straightforward agreements.

If you were a man, people would be encouraging you to write up sex at a certain frequency, as one of those "agreements".

I dont think you are less entitled to regular sex, just because you are woman. Do you?

You dont have to settle for a "sexless marriage". You shouldnt settle for a sexless marriage. (becuase it definately will eat away at you. you're an HD person,and you will not be happy without sex from your husband, long term.

I have been complimentary and appreciative of his advances and sexual offerings to the point of going overboard only to have him isolate and hide for weeks after.

Now, we're getting somewhere!
How about you start talking about specifics on that?
Not your interpretations of it.. but direct, factual, no exaggeration descriptions and comparisons of times where you did X, and he went into isolation.
(I've noticed that you are prone to exagerration: it is really, Really, really important, that you get that under control, and not exagerrate any more on this forum.
Never, should mean "Never", not "only a few times", to use one example)