Peicing hurts like hell and is harder than...

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Cat,
I've a friend who's given me some kudos, and that helps. I pretend my Global War on Terrorism medal is really for this Herculean effort I'm making now. Whatever gets us through it, right? Chocolate medals are definately in order.

Guess I'll stop beating myself for not pushing...It was his burden to bear, not mine, as you said, I am not responsible for his happiness, he is.

Me too. Although I am trying hard to see where I've fallen short, or where I could improve. I fear going through this and NOT learning a lesson or two. It would make it seem less senseless if I improved.

When they say "it's not the OP" I guess they are right. They don't have As because the OP is better than us (especially in your case. In mine, the OP, from all I know, which isn't much, is one hell of a great guy (although he is divorced, and he slept with a married women)).

Anyways, the issue that you and I can't rationalize away is the affection part. We both know our spouses are not there yet but that doesnt' stop us from yearning their touch, feeling them next to us, I hear you friend

Amen, This part is hard for me. Especially the balancing act, tight rope walking, of being detached but not too detached.

To make matters worse, I've had 2 (maybe 3) women express interest in me lately. I feel that if my M ends, I'll be able to find that affection if I want. I'm sorely tempted sometimes. But,it also gives me strength to keep fighting for my marriage. I feel confident, and the women help build my confidence.

Did you mean Rumba class? That's on my list of GAL goals, learn to dance. My W and I took ballroom back in college, and loved it. I'll get there eventually.

From what I can tell, you're doing great. We can't fail, we just can't be sure what the outcome will be