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I won't resist, but I am not going to help her get a D. I must think of what is the best for my D&S as they stand to be hurt the most.



Good for you.

I dont think that you have to "accept that my M is definitely over."
What you do have to accept, is that your wife does not want to work on it right now. SO, just like you seem to already have decided: Let her do whatever it is she believes that she "has to do". you just dont have to help her do it, if it is not something that YOU believe should be done.


If what you said is true, about all your financial/job gambling having "paid off", and you being in a situation where things finally look solid for you... I would suggest just staying the course.. in a way that does not shut out time for your family.

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My W has asked that we do this amicably so there will be no bitterness or animosity that could effect our kids.

"amicably" or not... you should get a lawyer, to protect yourself, and your future with your children.
Then let the lawyer deal with all the legal side of things.

Meanwhile, that will hopefully leave you free to be more open with your family.

ie: let the lawyer do the fighting, so you dont get caught up in it yourself.


Last edited by Dom R; 10/04/07 04:56 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle