I tried, but I couldn't think of anything good for PMT. Pre-monthly tantrums?
Saffie, If I have my dates right, then that would not be until next week, so don't think so. I really don't know, W keeps saying 'I don't want you to get the wrong meaning' from the intimacy. She was extremely upset after the last time (relax, I'm not that good) and I think she is finding it very hard to handle.
SueS/lwb,
Being a listening/supportive guy and trying to rah, rah her when she tells me about her day.
I think (and I am purely guessing here) is that she wants other people to make the hard decisions for her (leaving, changing work). She is constantly thinking about everything and almost wants everything sorted now (but I don't think she knows how).
A lot of this stems abck to her childhood, the way she was treated by her parents and being unable to ask her mother why (she died 4 years ago).
I am really trying, but it is getting so hard not to snap back and remind her that she was the one that strayed (don't worry, I won't). Thinking of sending a letter similar to husband's, but don't think the time is right at the moment. I don't think she has accessed her secret email account recently (certainly not from our home computer) and I am also tempted to send it to that.
I have had plenty of opportunity to access her phone, but why bother - if he is calling, he is calling.
I know this sounds like a bit of a downer email, but I am trying to understand her issues and support her. Yes she is talking to me and sharing her problems, but sometimes I feel that she is still biding her time (stupid I know).
On the plus side, I have known for 6 months, she has not seen OP in 4 months and there is no leaving talk.
So, big breath, friendly support and smiles tonight and the offer of a free massage with no strings (though I do get to see her naked LOL).
