Divorced, but still hoping for a miracle

[JMC]

It does not seem uncommon that the WAS's circle may grow smaller, as they seem to associate only with those who support them. In my case, my WAW has nothing to do with my family (who considered her as a very much loved member), and many of our mutual friends. This woman was the ultimate party planner and enjoyed everyone's kids, but in relationships where perhaps the couple was originally introduced by me (in many cases 13 yrs ago) she has avoided contact.

I agree that it does not seem healthy for the kids to be only around the bf this soon after the divorce. Does your decree state anything regarding this area?

Any relationship between how much she hates me and my odds of ever working this out? I feel like if this is over in her mind, why does she keep this tirade about me going?

Hate is a strong emotion and most likely will not last. As to why she keeps up the tirade, who knows. Perhaps she needs to continue to support her choice to leave. I know it is much easier said than done, but it seems you need to continue to detach and take care of yourself.

I would agree that she should not be concerned about your relationship with her brother.

As far as what the WAW is thinking there is a good thread on the Infidelity/Jealousy forum by someone named Prodigal Wife who was a WAW and gives her side as to why she left, had an A, and eventually returned to her H. (sorry, I am not sure how to link you there, but last time I looked it was located on tab 5 or so).

I am by no means an expert, but I wish you the best!