Not sure "coax" is the operative word. It makes me wonder whether you can somehow talk her into trying again. She wasn't really trying before-just going through the motions. She has to come to you of her own initiative and say, "I'd like to give it another shot". The kicker is that you can't talk her into this...you can only hope she sees your changes and likes what she sees.
About your GAL question. One problem, and probably one that will persist in your marriage if you don't do something about it, is that you work too much. I understand the need, but if you are unhappy with your work situation, have no kids, and at least for the moment have no wife (and thus no responsibility to help her get into a house....I suggest opening your own account with your pay in it...she shouldn't continue to have access to it), now is the perfect time to look at what else is out there that may be more fulfilling and give you less of a strenuous work schedule.
As I mentioned above, she's insistent on getting a divorce. There is no reason that you need to keep a joint banking account with her. If you don't have kids together, then there is no reason to give her money. You are just two single people and she's going to have to make it on her own since she wants out so bad.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
It makes me wonder whether you can somehow talk her into trying again. She wasn't really trying before-just going through the motions. She has to come to you of her own initiative and say, "I'd like to give it another shot". The kicker is that you can't talk her into this...you can only hope she sees your changes and likes what she sees.
