Jak, Back in my days as a clueless H, I used to think I could smooth things over by making my W laugh. Stand your ground on this. YOU DESERVE CONNECTION IN THIS M. He needs to get this.
Think of ways you can influence him so that he can get a clue, and feel a 2X4 across his skull (tough love of course). Maybe you can put a copy of "It's Mostly His Fault" on his pillow, and tell him he needs to read it. Maybe you can send a message by sleeping in separate rooms, when you're feeling distant from him. Maybe you can express the frustratiion you feel in the form of anger. Is he seeing enough of your true emotions? Tell him that you think it's time for the both of you to go to marital therapy.
I see you two headed for separation or some marital crisis unless you see some changes in him. He doesn't realize how thin the ice is.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
