Keep in mind that you still have some time before Holiday right? I'm not saying you have to leave when she gets home, but maybe a quick conversation & then some space would help her.
The thing with the guy at work? I think you should be supportive and just listen to her on that. Sounds like she feels a little "hemmed in" at work now too because of this person. Maybe a little space & friendship at home would help ease that tension.
She said she enjoyed the intimacy last week......AWESOME. So she didn't feel as good this week. That's okay. She's just going up and down with some emotions. That's not to say that it won't come back to feeling good or even better for her soon.
Maybe offer the massage, but don't be upset if she rejects it. You're right.....act "as if" and just be there if she needs you.
Here's a boat load of TLC coming your way....(((((HUGS))))).
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day