I was pointing out to some of the angry and bitter people that you could think you were doing everything right. Everyone around could say you were the perfect couple. Everyone around would what to have what you have. In the end someones needs were not being met. Someone walks away. Someone gets left behind. One of them is holding a sign saying please dont go. Lets work on it. No one was communicating what the issue really was.
Did I say that the WAS said any thing? What you fail to realize is that the WAS had not done everything. Their perception was they had. If the S was as unhappy as the WAS thinks they were, why do we label them a LBS. You still don't get that both individuals were not having there needs met. Hence the unhappiness. To me the person walking away is the one that does not want to admit their part in it. They want to run away. They don't want to get any new tools. How many LBS's post here? How many of them are fully aware of their contribution to their failing marriage? How many times have you seen them go over and over the same shortcomings? I am frustrated, as a matter of fact I have pointed it out many times. I have read about the WAS. The issue is even they don't know what they are looking for. They know they are missing something but have no idea what they are looking for. (NFC disease)
You really think Littlebitlost is going to leave? You think I am being mean to her? Last I checked I was trying to help her. Honestly, I think we have a pretty good connection. I think she values my opnion or my thoughts. She is here. She has free will. If she does not want me to post on her stitch she can say as much. She can write it right here for all to see. I have said it many times. I want people to think and get it on their own. If I have to walk you through it I think some of the value in it is lost.
I see that Littlebitlost is right there she almost has it. Hell look at her name. She is just a little bit lost. Not alot just a Little.
Does it bother me that you lost a WAS? To a point yes. When you post here you open yourself up to anything. You have to understand that you are going to hear things you don't like. If you decide not to communicate because you get your feelings hurt then what are you doing?
To Erin,
I sincerely hope that me talking to you the way I do gives you some hope, some confidence. I want you to find that life you are looking for with your husband. I think you are doing a great job. I want the Erin that I see from way the hell over here to shine brightly over there. I want your husband to want you with all his heart so that he can put the past behind him and build a wonderful relationship with you. Please continue to post. Please don't leave I love the communication that me and you have with each other.
Cory
Did I get over myself long enough to lend a hand yet?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
