Damn, see that's what I mean, I messed up. If I had shut my mouth, you're right, she may have been trying to say something. Instead I put my foot in my mouth to see if she was upset with anything I had said to her before. No last night my son stayed with her so they could not spend the night together. Our son stays with me tonight so I am going to be up most of the night wondering if the OM is there. I know I have no control over that Saffie, but I won't be able to stop thinking about it tonight.