Don't worry about her and messing up. Think about you and your plans for getting through the day and working on making yourself stronger.
I know you love your wife and care about her but you cannot control what she does. Do not worry about her happiness - it is out of your control. She is doing this to herself - you are not forcing her to be with OM. Do you think if you had your son last night she was with OM, (with new underwear) and it wasn't good for them? We don't know, but better to think that than that it was all fireworks etc. I think OM business is getting to your W. Just don't be too ready to cushion her from the blows he causes - they are not your fault.
Stay strong my friend, stay strong. Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
