You definately didn't make things worse, and everything you said was true!! He truly does believe that things are all better, and even if he says he understands, he doesn't really, how could they, how could they truly understand the pain and hurt that they caused? Because we at no time treated them with anything but love, I know through the worst of our mess I never called him names, made comments about how good or not they were in bed, and never acted evil and childish! So how could they know. I think that he has written alot of to his depression, using that in his mind to excuse or justify or deal with his actions.
I am not out to point all of this out to him in detail, I don't want to rub his nose in it, as I don't feel that will help anything in the long run, but I do want him to realize that there is damage and its going to take awhile! I was looking through my Retrouvaille work book last night and it looks like we are coming up to the hard stuff, dealing with whats happened alittle more, so hopefully this will give me the vehicle to get some of these feelings out to him in away that is safe, and in away that I know he is hearing me!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
