Just getting started peicing it back together 2

[jersting]

Just wanted to add a small update... W has done another 180 and she wants to spend time with me and is telling me the loving feeling she lost is coming back. I don't know what has happend to cause her to change like this. I've asked her and she replies because I am being sweet. Hounestly I don't see any change in the way I have acted toward her. I have not been trying to get her back or trying to push her away. I've just been me and she has done a 180. I am walking on thin Ice but I am taking heavy steps because I know that she can flip back the other way just as easy as she has flipped this way. I am not sure what to make of it but I do enjoy being with her so I guess I will buy another token for the roller coaster and see what happens. I am not stuppid but I am very hopefull. I just need to keep being hopefull and NOT STUPPID.

[Soxfan2008]

You can sit in the front car with me! I've bought enough tickets to ride without having to keep getting off!

Remember, i's not whether you think you are being sweet that matters, it's her perception that is what counts. She percieves sweetness, so keep on goin!

[jersting]

thanks Sox I will. She invited me to come to her house tonight after I finished a late night at work to catch up. I went over and she really tried to get me to go to bed with her and I wanted to, but all I could think about was what if one of our kids would come in and see me there and a month from now she would change her mind again. I don't want the kids to deal with anymore than they have to. I said as much as I would like to I didn't think it would be a good idea because of the reason I mentioned. Her mood changed to a very somber state and I let her know that I noticed this mood swing and I did not want her to be upset but I thought this was best. She said she knew where she was in all of this but didn't know where I was. I tried to let her know that I was on the same page as she was but I just didn't want to hurt the kids. Now all I can do is wait and see if she is for real...right? I mean the way I see it if she does feel this strongly about it now she should still feel it even after I left...right? Well anyway we have a date for friday night so I will see how the next few days go. If nothing else Sox we can see which one of us can ride the fastest most terrifing roller coaster without getting off.

[Soxfan2008]

Hey, ya never know. We may end up getting together with our Spouses one day in IN when we visit H's family.

My rides a rocky one-- my knuckles are white.

I'm impressed that she tried to get you in bed. Isn't that a positive? A good step? If you have a sitter for the kids on Friday night what will you do if she feels the same way? Will you give in? Women have desires and needs too. And she is wanting you to fullfil them. Is it time for you to take a chance on trust?

[jersting]

A team of wild horses won't keep me back if I get an opprotunity to do something I enjoy with someone I love and not hurt any one else I love.

[Soxfan2008]

That's what I wanted hear! It's good that you know that now, so given the right circumstances you will know what you want.

[jersting]

Since I have been home I have been putting in your kind of hours to get cought up. I have to be at work in 4 hours and it is getiing late your time as well. thanks for the advice, type to you soon.

[OldFool]

I haven't time to reply in full, but please be careful on the ML stuff. While it may have meaning for your W, it is just as likely it doesn't. My WAW and I ML the night of our anniversary (she appeared to be as "into" it as I was). A couple weeks later when she left, I discovered she'd ML with the OM in our house just 48 hrs before that night while I was out of town.

[jersting]

Wow what the heck is wrong with these WAWs?

[Soxfan2008]

gettin ready for the date? Where ya goin? whatcha gonna do?

don't worry about the sex. My H and I have more sex now than we did before he moved out. With no OM/OW in the picture I think sex is actually a good idea. It keeps you connected and keeps them wanting more of you.

good luck tonight.