once told my wife that I could have been the best Husband ever and we would still be right here. She took offence to it. Fair enough. Look at what was just posted. I gotta go out on a limb and say "This is the best post ever!" For all you LBS out the guess what.... You don't have to be a distant, angry, S for someone to "walk out". For some reason you HAVE to go through this.
Forrest, I'm not sure what all you are saying here other than show how bitter you are. I understand that. Most LBS are bitter, angry, hurt.....the whole nine yards. But, again, try to restate this so I can understand it better, please.
For the record, I don't recall any of us WAW's saying that you H's had to be a distant angry S in order for us to walk out. As I remember from most of the few WAW's that has the guts to come here and spill their soul to this board, is that they tried to tell their H's that they were unhappy and the H would not listen and or take her seriously (like, "I didn't think she was really that unhappy")So, the W gives up and walks out. Then.....oh boy, then the H's gets all up in arms. So, don't get too high and mighty about us WAW's b/c most of you LBH's aren't perfect......you just won't admit to your part of the failure in the MR.
I hope she did not feel that you were attacking her b/c frankly it sounded that way, but again, I know you are frustrated and hurt and you are trying to figure out the mind of a WAW. There are many books out there about the subject. Michelle has written about it. Read it.
We lost one WAW that was reading the different posts made and she saw the anger from a LBS and said just one sentence.....then we lost her. I don't know about you, but that makes me sick! I have worried about her b/c she was desparate just like I was when I came here a few months ago. But she saw hatred for the WAW and I don't want this to happen to this woman. She has seen her mistakes......she wants to stay in the M and is asking for our help.....now get over yourself long enough to see if you can lend a hand to another person.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
