Ya kind of jumped all over the place this afternoon and I saw you e- mail but can't seem to find it now. You seem like a very hyper person. I get tired just reading your stuff. I realize you are trying to keep busy to keep things off your mind but from reading your thread it seems like this has been going on for a long time. How long ago did your husband move out? You are persuading. Is it a good thing? I don't know. I have been dealing with a bunch of crap for a long time. It took a long time and with the help of my "buddies" here to get to where I am now. I have had to learn to detach for myself not to get "even" I have had to learn to let go of the OM (am still working on this) I think now I am at the point to start perusing again. But....... this can be hurtful. I need to be prepared to be let down. Sex or as you call it "being intimate" is different between men and women. This is what hurt me the most about my W having the affair. NOT to make and excuse for her actions because there is none. She was looking for emotional support. The guy was just looking for SEX. He does not care about her. About my family. He just wanted a Scr3w. I am not saying your husband is the same because he loved you at one time and most likely still does but.......... If you become "intimate" with him just because he comes over what is he missing? Now if you two have a meaning full conversation or go out to dinner or something and that leads to sex well if you want to ok. But don't just be his toy or you will never get him back permanently.
Sorry but that is my option it is not right or wrong it is just me. Just to prove to you how sex is different between men and woman I was sooo desperate at one time I was willing to let my W see the other man if she would stay with me. I have come a long way since then but I was just as desperate as anyone here. I am at the point that I do have my needs. I would prefer to get them met by working on my marriage and staying with my wife but I am to the point that I will NOT cheat on her and if she is not willing to work things out then I am going to ask for a separation so I can find someone to talk to. To hold and fall asleep in their arms it has been so long.
Did I help you or just rant and rave
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
