muddled and angry: Puddle's third thread

[Nomopo]

Hi Puddle. On BB now, but let me try to respond to a few things in the last few posts.

1. Yes, I think the WAS feels guilty, and yes I think easing that guilt is a good thing. I mean getting their minds of the tension between you (whether that emanates from their guilt or something else) and the negative feelings they associate with the current interactions between you is a good thing. Then, perhaps, they can focus on good feelings between you, good interactions and\or your good qualities.

2. Yes this may be less aggressively honest than we would like, but what really matters. And at its core, DB is about searching for solutions, or what works. There are no wrong buttons, except the one you keep pushing over and over that doesn't work.

3. Puddle, don't sweat h's not so friendly responses. He is not going to trust any changes at first. You have to be consistent over a period of time. His initial reactin to your change (launched by your email) will be skepticism. Wouldn't yours?

Hope it helps,
Nomo