Hey As I said, new is not easier, just easier and more fun now. I get it totally, actually thought about pointing pusher Nomo out to you but did not, obviously.
Please keep me in check, afraid pusher CVA is rearing his ugly head
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Nomo-- You sound happy with your new lady--you deserve some of that. Man, watching you go through this whole sitch has been like speed-reading!! Me, slow as a turtle, with a head as hard as that damn shell...
I see how you have gotten control of your sitch--do you, too? YOU can now decide if she is worthy of the nomo we all love.
In my all-or-nothing state of mind, myself, I have been on match.com...
maybe just to boost pma, but you never know. Might be able to face all of this crap with a good man's arms around me, whispering in my ear again.
Don't have much to add, but it is really amazing how quickly your mindset about your sitch has changed. I know, though, that is has been a process and it makes sense, because,as L2 said, you don't do anything at half speed. As long as you feel ok with everything and are being careful with your heart, that is all that matters.
Take care!
(Maybe between all of your millions of dates you could squeeze in a time for you, me, and CVA to get together? )
Hey kat! Thanks for mentioning me!!! I feel special now!!!
Hey nomo, just got back, hope u had fun with kiddos
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
I will do SOMETHING, by God. So now I am cooling my jets and re-considering if I (yes, me, Nomo) really want to shake-up the living arrangements, re-work the finances, etc. I may, but I want to be sure it's not just Pusher Nomo, who has to always be moving forward.
Hooo boy, you're going great guns. Well, as they say, you can't steer a ship that's not moving.
Do you mean that by "shaking up" the sitch, you'll be saying you're pretty much done? Is that what you think, or what you think W will think (or perhaps both)?
I'll look forward to hearing what you decide.
CVA, I wonder when "new and easier now" trumps "old and hard but ideal."
Wish I had recalled and pointed out "pusher" nomo, that makes a lot of sense. Good to hear that you're going to step back and reevaluate -- just not too much, eh?
And, Puddle, what's so frustrating is that why the hell don't our spouses realize that "new and easy" will become "old and harder" one day and that today's old and hard can become "new and easy" again.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
And, Puddle, what's so frustrating is that why the hell don't our spouses realize that "new and easy" will become "old and harder" one day and that today's old and hard can become "new and easy" again.
BD
Heim, I sure don't know. Maybe too many problems created over the years that they don't think that it will ever become easier again. They just don't want to try. H told me in the beginning that he didn't love me anymore, well being blinded by OW of course not, but they say that like they could never fall back in love with again. When first met, we didn't truly love one another, that had to be built but back then we had the infatuation love pushing us together.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley