muddled and angry: Puddle's third thread

[S.T. _I Made It!]

In regards to Nomo's comment about the WAS waiting for us to agree with them. I think this is because they feel guilty because they are hurting us so much. They avoid talking or being direct about what they want because it just brings that all out. They DO still care about us, I mean, how can they not at least a little? They HAD planned on being with us forever, but then something inbetween happened. I know it's hard to believe after all the pain they're causing us, but they are in pain too.

So, I think her stating that she understands his feelings but does not feel the same way, but she respects any decision he makes and wants him to be happy is a good thing.

And Puddle, I think you need to stop focusing on wanting your H to understand he's doing something "TO YOU" and the kids. I really would be suprised if this was his plan all along. He's at a point where he just can't take it, maybe he's been faking something for along time...which your mentioning of his depression which I never knew about would make sense...and this is his "only hope". However, he is being torn by causing this rift in the family and if YOU felt the same way, it would be so perfect and he wouldn't feel guilty anymore.